Thursday, 8 October 2015

Understanding The True Lover Tests

By Sharon Weeks


We have all been in those situations where we feel an unexplainable feeling of excitement and euphoria. This feeling occurs especially when one meets or talks to that wonderful person that you have always longed for his or her attention. One may think that he or she is falling in love but you really have to question yourself whether it is truly love. The true lover tests will help you know whether whatever you are experiencing is really love or just a period of infatuation.

Many a times that those in relationships still fail to feel the love. This is because they are infatuated to each other rather than sharing that mutual feeling of love. Their expectations at this stage may be skewed and never bearing any fruit. The failure to differentiate the two explains why marriage breakages are increasing at a higher rate.

The love tests are designed to aid in discerning and distinguishing between true love and infatuation. You can apply the tests in to your current relationship or your expectations on what a love relationship should entail. Get to ask yourself questions on whether your present relationship or your views on relationship are aligned with infatuation or love.

The test of time. True love grows with time while infatuation diminishes as time goes by. Get to know how hurriedly you start labeling certain feelings as love, realize if you have other words you use to describe such feelings. Supposing you find yourself falling in love every now and then and very early, and later you get disappointed, then keeping this test in mind will save your from a future heartache.

In the internet tests have been developed. Questions are set with limited choices to pick as answer. Once one takes that test, results are analyzed online and displayed on the screen. Even though the accuracy of this method may be questioned, it gives time for a partner to reflect. When replying to these set questions one makes an independent analysis this may be helpful in deciding whether you love her or you do not.

Test of distance. Genuine love knows how important distance is. On the other hand, infatuation only imagines that love is meant to be intense closeness all the time. If circumstances put it that you have to be temporarily separated from your other half, that will definitely teach you more on the quality of your relationship. Supposing you fail to feel a sense of separateness, distinct life, healthy balance and relationship with other persons, then you are more infatuated than in love.

Test of stability. True love will endure all obstacles. Infatuation may change all over sudden and unpredictably. When you are infatuated, the wind blows and one just falls in love. True love does not happen this way, it is more stable and there is commitment. Stability test is quite hard to apply to a relationship that is measured in only some few days or weeks.

Clear understanding of own personality is the first step towards attainment of true love. An individual should clearly know his areas of interest and what he does not like. A point to remember that the person you love will be your lifetime partner. One should therefore be certain of what he or she is doing.




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